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I guess it's kinda clichéd for me to put up an article like this – that marriage isn't for everyone and everyone shouldn't feel like they need to get married.

The article says, "There is... a commonly held notion that to get married is to 'settle down', in contrast to being unmarried suggesting that the latter is to be saddled with an 'unsettled' state of life."

A friend and I were talking yesterday a bit about settling down and I think this quote describes pretty well how we felt.  I've always thought that marriage is very hard work and a big transition. (But lately I'm thinking that having kids is an even bigger change and takes much more effort to cope with.)

I think that it's worth the time and process to find (or wait) for the right person, instead of settling for who you obviously know to be less than the key criteria you really want. Granted, we don’t know who we’re going to meet in the future and it’s very possible that we might never find that "right" person. But when it comes to the human with whom you expect to find rest, comfort and support, I think we should give due respect and serious consideration to nagging feelings (i.e. your gut) that today's decision to get hitched is going to come back and haunt us later.

Have relationships, by all means, because that's how you know somebody. But don't get married until you know you want to come home to this person everyday for the rest of your life, because reversing that decision is very painful and hurtful.