que pasa

We were supposed to do this birthday suprise thing for one of our friends by pretending we had other plans instead of not going for dinner with him after our meeting (which he probably expected us to since it was his birthday on the same day).  But in the end his girlfriend called it off because he had already asked her to make sure everybody knew it was his birthday and get people together, so it wouldn't be a surprise afterall. 

Strangely enough, some people were rather irritated at the change of plans, or at how the change of plans was decided/executed.  I thought it was interesting, in a sad way, how some people take offence at these things.  When I spoke with the birthday boy, he mentioned he was aware of the original plans and said that he wasn't that big into birthday surprises for himself (but he wouldn't mind doing it for other people).

Guess we all see birthday surprises differently.  That while some people really appreciate the planning, some others just want to know that there will be people to celebrate their birthday with them.  Which makes sense because people only appreciate you care when you express love in a way they understand it, not in the way you do. 

Else, just be really obtuse and say "I love you."